Sporting Culture Shock

I'll admit that I guess I have a bit of sporting culture shock whenever I play hockey with a new group of people. Groups always have their own unique rules and practices. The guys here, though, are an interesting lot. 

I was forced to listen to some whining last night when one of my passes and then one of my shots hit two separate guys. The first guy stood right in front of a pass, trying to block it. The second guy--who was the knucklehead who almost knocked my teeth out with his reckless stickwork--was standing in front of the net playing goalie when my shot (a casual wrist shot) hit him. A key fact here is that said knucklehead had told me the first time I played that "we don't stand in front of the net; we play with no goalies." Anyhow, at that point, the first guy who got nailed starts complaining that "we don't play like that here." I asked him what he expects should happen if someone is standing in front of the net when I'm getting ready to shoot. He suggested that I shoot it "softly."